How do I capture my parents’ childhood Christmas stories before they are forgotten?

Dear Mr. Higgonbottom: How do I capture my parents’ childhood Christmas stories before they forget them?

— Nostalgic Elf in Evanston

Dear Nostalgic Elf,

You truly have a gift for asking good questions! Family memories from holidays are precious, and documenting them is a present your parents and future generations will want to open year after year.

And guess what? You can do this. You don’t need a Hollywood film crew or expensive equipment. You only need a little curiosity, structure, and a good ear. Here are a few pointers.

Begin with a casual conversation. Informal chats often lead to the best stories. Use open-ended prompts like, “Do any smells evoke Christmas morning memories?” or “Which tradition did you love the most?” These questions invite sensory detail and emotion, making stories come alive.

Think about props and memory triggers. Old ornaments, family recipes, or photos can unlock vivid memories. Even small things—such as a chipped mug—can hold a lovely story.

Try to document the story as it unfolds. You can either record the discussion on your phone or tablet or take notes. No need for edits; your goal is simply to find those memories and preserve the words and feelings. Once you’ve collected the stories, you can categorize them into subjects such as traditions, get-togethers, presents, and similar themes.

You’ve listened to the stories—hopefully laughed a bit or even shed a tear. Now it’s time to turn those stories into something lasting. Do you have enough material to create a family memory book or a holiday scrapbook? Printed booklets are easy to create and can become beloved family heirlooms. Or take it up a notch and hire a professional writer who can transform your family’s recollections into a beautifully structured narrative. You’ll end up with a book that reads like a true family history rather than a collection of loosely pieced-together stories.

Remember, it’s not about finding big or dramatic holiday stories, but about honoring the importance of memories. Focus on specifics such as the scent of pine, the heat from the fire, and the excitement of Christmas Eve. A Christmas memoir becomes timeless through those little moments.

So start asking, listening, and writing. You want to capture those treasured memories before they slip away.

Warmly,